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Questions to Ask on Hinge: 25+ Ideas to Create Connection
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"So... what do you do for work?"
There it is. The most asked question on dating apps. And also the most boring. The one that turns a promising conversation into a job interview over drinks.
If you want to crush it on Hinge, you need to ask the right questions. Not the ones she's heard 47 times this week. The ones that make her think, smile, and most importantly: that make her want to respond.
In our complete Hinge conversation guide, we talked about the importance of flow. Here, we'll dig into the topic of questions — because it's really THE lever for creating connection that goes beyond small talk.
Never run out of things to say
AI-powered replies that keep the conversation going. From first message to getting the date.
Pineapple belongs on pizza. 🍕🍍
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Types of Questions That Work
Not all questions create the same level of engagement. Here's a classification that will change how you converse.
Level 1 Questions: Easy and Fun
These questions are light, quick to answer, and create a relaxed atmosphere. Perfect for starting a conversation.
Characteristics:
- Possible to answer in one sentence
- No risk of awkwardness
- Often in "would you rather..." format
- Reveal tastes/preferences
Level 2 Questions: Curious and Revealing
A step up. These questions require some thought and reveal personality.
Characteristics:
- Require a small story
- Reveal values or experiences
- Create potential common ground
- Easy to bounce off of
Level 3 Questions: Deep and Connecting
For conversations that have been going a while. These questions create real intimacy.
Characteristics:
- Require sincere reflection
- Can be a bit vulnerable
- Create a "we really know each other" feeling
- Use sparingly (not from the first exchange)
For more inspiration on prompts and creative responses, check our guide on using prompts to your advantage.
25+ Questions by Category
Fun and Light Questions (Level 1)
1. "Would you rather teleport or become invisible?" Why it works: Reveals if she's more adventurous or observant. And it always leads to funny justifications.
2. "Last thing that made you laugh out loud by yourself like an idiot?" Why it works: Personal, positive, and she'll probably share something funny.
3. "Do you eat your pizza: crust first or last?" Why it works: Absurd but revealing question. Passionate answers guaranteed.
4. "Are you someone who arrives 10 minutes early or 10 minutes late?" Why it works: Reveals her relationship with time and organization. And it's neutral.
5. "If you had to eat one dish for the rest of your life, what would it be?" Why it works: Classic but effective. Everyone has an opinion and it's easy to continue from there.
6. "Your most used emoji?" Why it works: Original, reveals her communication style, and creates humor.
7. "Do you sing in the shower or resist?" Why it works: Light and universal. Leads into music talk.
Never run out of things to say
AI-powered replies that keep the conversation going. From first message to getting the date.
Pineapple belongs on pizza. 🍕🍍
Pineapple belongs on pizza. 🍕🍍
Curious and Revealing Questions (Level 2)
8. "What's something you learned recently that blew your mind?" Why it works: Shows you're curious about how she thinks, not just her hobbies.
9. "What's the best advice anyone ever gave you?" Why it works: Reveals her values and influences. Opens deep exchanges.
10. "If you could have a conversation with yourself from 5 years ago, what would you say?" Why it works: Shows evolution, learnings. Very revealing.
11. "What's the most random thing on your bucket list?" Why it works: "Random" bucket lists are more interesting than "traveling". Says a lot.
12. "Do you feel more underrated or overrated in a particular area?" Why it works: Unusual. Reveals self-confidence and hidden talents.
13. "What's a hobby you've never tried but are drawn to?" Why it works: Talks about aspirations, not just what she already does.
14. "If you could become a world expert in any field overnight, what would it be?" Why it works: Reveals passions and dreams. Answers always interesting.
15. "What's your guilty pleasure that you don't fully admit to?" Why it works: Creates complicity. You're sharing a little secret.
16. "The last thing that made you lose track of time?" Why it works: Reveals what she's truly passionate about. Not what she says she does, what she does.
17. "Do you have a slightly weird personal tradition?" Why it works: Everyone has little rituals. Creates intimacy.
Deep and Connecting Questions (Level 3)
18. "What's the last thing that made you change your mind about something important?" Why it works: Shows open-mindedness and ability to evolve.
19. "If you could relive one day of your life exactly as it happened, which would it be?" Why it works: Touches on precious memories. Very intimate.
20. "What's your personal definition of success?" Why it works: Reveals true priorities beyond appearances.
21. "What makes you feel truly yourself?" Why it works: Goes to the heart of identity. Creates deep connection.
22. "If you had to describe yourself without talking about your job, family, or hobbies, what would you say?" Why it works: Forces reflection on who we really are.
23. "What's the moment you knew you were becoming an adult?" Why it works: Stories often funny or touching. Very personal.
24. "What would you want people to remember about you?" Why it works: Question of legacy, values. Use when connection is established.
25. "If you could guarantee one thing in your future life, what would it be?" Why it works: Reveals deep priorities: security, adventure, love...
Questions to Avoid (and Why)
"Job Interview" Questions
❌ "What do you do for work?" Problem: Boring. Defines people by their job.
Alternative: "Do you feel fulfilled in your job or do you have other projects in mind?"
Closed Questions
❌ "Do you like traveling?" Problem: One-word answer. Dead conversation.
Alternative: "What's the trip that impacted you most?"
Questions Too Intimate Too Soon
❌ "What's your biggest fear?" Problem: Too intimate for a first exchange. Creates discomfort.
Alternative: Save that for the date. Or after several days of chatting.
Questions About Apps/Exes
❌ "Have you been on Hinge long?" ❌ "What was your last relationship like?" Problem: Awkward. Puts focus on dating, not on her.
Alternative: Don't mention it at all. Period.
Test Questions
❌ "Do you prefer tall or short guys?" ❌ "What are your criteria?" Problem: Insecure vibes. She feels you're seeking validation.
Alternative: Be confident. If you don't match her criteria, move on.
The Art of the Follow-Up Question
A good question is great. Knowing how to build on her answer is better.
The "Why" Technique
Her: "I'd say sushi, definitely." You: "Why sushi specifically? Is there a story?"
→ You dig instead of changing the subject.
The "Me Too / Me It's the Opposite" Technique
Her: "I'm team teleportation, no hesitation." You: "Team invisibility here. But honestly, your logic almost convinces me..."
→ You share while keeping it going.
The "Callback" Technique
(20 messages later) You: "That reminds me of your bucket list story. The bungee jumping thing, still happening?"
→ You show you're really listening.
The Mirror Story Technique
Her: "My guilty pleasure is reality TV shows. I know, it's terrible." You: "I can't judge, I pulled an all-nighter on [random show]. We're all a little trashy somewhere."
→ You reassure her by sharing too.
Learn More
Questions are the fuel of a good conversation. But remember: the goal isn't to ask 25 questions. It's to create real connection.
The best conversations look less like a Q&A and more like a natural exchange where both people share, react, and build on each other.
For more techniques applicable on other platforms, check our icebreakers for all apps — the principles stay the same, even if formats change.
And if you want one last tip? The best question is often the one that comes naturally from what she just said. Not a pre-prepared question. Really listen, and the rest comes on its own.
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